Take that dayuuum coat off?

[sistuhchey]

I was just curious about over diagnosing, and over medicating...everything is a addiction or a illness or an anxeity..that (they) say requires meds... does it really??

I can't say what it feels like to wake up... one day...and accept the fact that maybe something ain't quite right with my child...mentally / emotionally..I'm sure that's a hurtful heartache...

But I understand parents concern and love...and wanting to do the right and best thing...

For my one & only there was no med's. no counselling, special concerns..nada..grant it her diagnosis or needs was not the same..but being born with only two digits on your left hand...and no big toes....we had our challenges..she looked fine, walked fine, ran and jumped like most it was a very, very challenging triumphant for us both...but no one was there behind close doors when I was teaching how to cut her meat or to reiterate she's beautiful with all of her fingers or toes, no meds for when she cried about where would she wear her wedding ring... or make her learn to like open toe shoes and sandals...no meds, diagnosis for when kids made fun of her..and asked countless times..what happened to your hand???...

so excuse me, when I hear they have a name / illness/ anixety/ for a person wanting to keep their sweater or coat on.....wowwww..still floored

[Tastey]

I see your point Chey. I think we have moved from a society that was fearful of mental illness and few were diagnosed (as in my parent's day) to a society that labels almost everything as a disorder.

What happens is that those who really need help still sometimes don't get it because as you say "even wearing a coat a lot" can be a disorder.

Or the person just might be cold.

It's so hard to distinguish what is real and what is not these days.

[misha]

I can guarantee that any person can spend 30 minutes with noodle and know that something is very wrong. This diagnosis was not a fad. It was not made lightly.

It was heartbreaking to know and accept that she is not going to live up to the expectations that most parents have for their children. And if i had a dime for every person that clucked and told me that there was nothing wrong with noodle I'd be a damn millionaire.

[lovely]

Originally Posted by misha

It was heartbreaking to know and accept that she is not going to live up to the expectations that most parents have for their children. And if i had a dime for every person that clucked and told me that there was nothing wrong with noodle I'd be a damn millionaire.

this is the part that gets to me alot. to the point that counseling has been suggested for me. you have such high hopes for your children and then they come crashing down. what ive had to learn to do is to accept her as she is. and realize that her successes are going to be quite different than what i thought they might be.

mentally jasmine is doing much better. i know it has to do with the anti-depressant she takes. and i also know its because ive been home (unemployed..full time employment) with her for almost the last year. last year she was threatening to kill her self, writing on her self (which can per a precurser to self multilation), threatening others, losing interest in her surroundings, not talking to anyone, and not making friends. things have definitly changed sense then. accademically and socially are where my main concerns are. socially she does things that her 3 year old sister does. just this morning we started her on ADD medications. hopefully that will help with the academic portion. although academically she is making A's and B's in everything except math...i fear that once she gets to harder classes that there will be problems (which when researching the type of Learning Disabilty that she has been diagnosed with..that is what they suggests will happen). hopefully the ADD meds will help with that AND ive heard the ADD meds will help a person with ADD in social aspects as well.

you know Chey...if jasmine had problems behind closed doors that didnt spread out into her every day living then i might not be concerned. hey thats what i did as a child. outside the home i was peachy keen. but at home..thats when all the issues come out. even as adults..thats the way we mostly handle things. at work...church...social events we smile like everything is okay: the bills paid, health is okay, family alright, money straight. but at home is where we can let our real emotions out. the problem comes when all those emotions cant be left at home. and you cant control them in public. i beleive that might be the difference between our girls...your daughter was able to control her emotions out in public. my daughter...couldnt.

[misha]

Noodle could not control her behavior any more than a person can control the color of their eyes. She has literally gone off the deep end, a complete break, and could not control it and sometimes did not even know why she was acting that way. She just could not, and can not help it. The only friends she has are kids that have some of the same issues because they don't judge her as everyone else does.

[missbuttabutt]

I was having this discussion with someone about how it seems as though today every child is being diagnosed as having some type of disorder. My younger cousin was very active and used to bite people a lot. That was more than 10 years ago, and today he is a perfect gentleman attending one of the top 25 high schools in the nation and going to Rutgers University in the fall.

Back then, he would've probably been diagnosed with ADD or some other type of challenge, when really all he needed was to be disciplined.

[sistuhchey]

Well ladies...you're both in my prayers...and I wish nothing but the best..for your daughters....and pray..they outgrow such behavioral /emotional problems (Is that possible)

Often today...T-Diddy still calls a lot of her adolescence behavior a mental rolodex with emotional battles and scars...grant it...it was strictly a beauty / physical battle.. she just wanted to fit in like most kids & teens...and she did..athletiscim, academia, my family and I rode her like a jockey...anything they can do...you can do better, so sports, cheerleading,tap, music, beauty pagents, debates, and volunteering for the special oylmpics..made up her child hood.... Happy with the results...except for her choice in men...oh well..can't get it all

[Juicey1]

Originally Posted by Admin

Fam, I have a co-worker who walks around all day with her coat on? It's lunch time and this woman has not talked her coat off yet. This woman does this everyday.

Is this normal or weird?
Do yall have co-workers that wear coats all day/everyday?

Holla

A white guy at the company I work for wears a short leather jacket ALL YEAR ROUND!!!!! Ya'll know how hot it gets in Texas.......Damn

Last summer I walked out to get in my car and he was standing waiting on the van to pick him up and had his black leather jacket on.....zipped up. It was 104 that day.........

I think I have only seen him outside without it on once..........any other day he has it on..........Rain or shine............hot or cold.........

I bet that jacket is FUNNNNNKKKKKYYYY

[ERinger]

I can't say anything. I wear mine all day. Hell it's cold in that school.